Ultimate Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century

"Inherently, each one of us has the substance within to achieve whatever our goals and dreams define.  What is missing from each of us is the training, education, knowledge and insight to utilize what we already have." -- Mark Twain

The purpose of this web site is to provide access to information on available resources for successful living in every area of life including personal, professional, organizational, community and global. Our objective is to help individuals, organizations and communities realize more of their potential and enjoy expanded capabilities to address the increasing global social, economic and environmental challenges we face on what Bucky Fuller referred to as Space Ship Earth. An overview of many of the individual program components is provided at www.UltimateDestinyland.com.

The organizations initially involved in this Expanding the Circle of Success Campaign seek to promote and facilitate Lifelong Learning of Successful Living Skills. We plan to provide the full spectrum of resources ranging from Basic Successful Living Skills (such as goal setting, time management, financial literacy, etc.), to what we refer to as Master Successful Living Skills, Ultimate Successful Living Skills and Spiritual Successful Living Skills. An initial list of the various types of resources that would be provided within each of these categories including exercises and supplemental resources is provided later on the page.

Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Choose your words, for they become actions. Understand your actions, for they become habits. Study your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny.”   Unknown

Many of the initial resources have been developed by CENTER SPACE (the Center for Spiritual, Personal And Community Empowerment) and Ultimate Destiny University, two non-profit organizations based in Sedona, AZ and San Diego, CA.. For example, the 14 interactive programs contained within the Ultimate Destiny Success System  (UDSS) from Ultimate Destiny University include pre and post self-assessment quizzes, featured resources, application exercises and tools for planning what priority action steps to take to achieve your ultimate success in each of the 14 areas of successful living. 

The UDSS programs created and co-authored by Charles Betterton include 12 main steps designed to help readers and workshop participants discover their dreams and realize their ultimate success including:

1.   How to Know Yourself! Through Self-Assessment and Discovery Exercises
2.   How to Envision Your Ideal Future Using Your Creative Imagination
3.   How to Radiate Gratitude for the Realization of Your Vision
4.   How to Set and Achieve S.M.A.R.T. Goals
5.   How to Develop and Implement Strategic Action Plans
6.   How to Use Visualization Skills with Vision Boards and Treasure Maps
7.   How to Develop and Use Affirmation Statements
8.   How to Discover and Nurture Your Heart's Desires
9.   How to Work with Coaches, Mentors and Cheerleaders
10. How to Create Your Own Mastermind Support Team
11. How to Apply Universal Laws and Flow Positive Energy to Your Desired Outcomes
12. How to Benefit from Lifelong Learning of Successful Living Skills

The following information on the significance of Life Long Learning is excerpted from Chapter 12 of the 14 titles in the Ultimate Destiny Success System Library

Engaging in Lifelong Learning of Essential Successful Living Skills

“…that is what learning is. You suddenly understand something
you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.” —Doris Lessing 

What does it take to be successful? There are as many strategies as there are definitions of success. But most successful people agree, there are a few things you must be able to do in order to succeed. We call these the Essential Successful Living Skills.

They include:

      1.    Maintaining a positive outlook
    Setting and managing goals.
    Finding a source of self-motivation
    Making the best use of time
    Effectively managing income and resources.
    Solving problems creatively
    Reducing stress
    Creating and holding on to your vision
    Receiving guidance from your heart
  Being willing to embrace change
  Communicating your ideas
  Collaborating with others

How can you learn these vital skills? Follow these instructions:

1. Look up. Maintaining a positive outlook or positive mental attitude requires practice and careful attention to what you think about. Our attitudes are mostly habit, and habits can be changed. If you train yourself to think about your present situation, the past, and your future in a positive light, you will have mastered this skill.

2. Write it down. Goals are important, and specific, written goals are a major factor in success. One study showed that college students who recorded their skills were much more likely to have reached those goals when followed up decades later. Choose goals for the near future, for a bit farther out, and for the distant future. Record them now. Review them frequently.

3. Get started. To be successful, you must be able to get yourself off Ground Zero and put yourself in motion. Some people are motivated by desperation, while others are inspired by faith. You might have a hero or heroine you want to emulate. Some of the most successful people have received negative messages early in life and have been motivated by a desire to prove these nay-sayers wrong. Whatever it takes, you must find a source that motivates you to take action.

4. Use time wisely. There are a limited number of hours in the day, and we each have a limited number of years in our lives. Each moment is precious and filled with potential. To be successful, we need to recognize the time-wasters in our lives, and fill that time with activity that moves us toward our goals. Schedules may seem restrictive, but they actually allow you the freedom of knowing you are on track and moving ahead.

5. Manage resources. Mastering our use of money and resources may prove to be the most challenging of the Essential Successful Living Skills. Yet knowing exactly what you have, what you owe, and what you can earn is a key element to success. Staying out of financial debt and saving for the future helps relieve stress and puts you in a better position to reach your goals.

6. Meet challenges. The path to success is never a smooth one. There will be obstacles to overcome. But remember, the Chinese language has a single word that means both “crisis” and “opportunity.” Each crisis is an opportunity for you to apply your creativity. Within the solutions you find as you solve problems creatively, there will be much information and many additional resources.

7. Reduce stress and overcome fear. Stress is a natural reaction to the challenges of life, and the more you try to accomplish, the greater your stress might be. But at the root of all stress is fear: fear that you will fail, that you won’t have enough or be enough or do enough to succeed. Release that fear, and your stress level declines. Dealing properly with stress may be the most important Essential Successful Living Skill, because when stress is out of control, nothing else can be effectively accomplished.

8. Hold the vision. Life is complicated and full of surprises. Things change every day. In the middle of this, if you are to move forward toward success, you must keep a tight grip on your vision of success. Use affirmations, visualization, and meditation on your goals to remember your vision and hold it fast. Then each choice you make will take you in the right direction.

9. Listen to your heart. When you’re in a situation where you must make a choice, who knows how to choose? You do. Your heart will give you all the guidance you need, if you learn to relax and listen to it, and honor its wisdom. This Essential Successful Living Skill requires practice and patience, but it works every time. Your instincts are powerful. Know what you feel, have faith in your own inner wisdom, and decide accordingly.

10. Embrace change. Success is a puzzle, and it’s one in which the pieces shift constantly. There is no solution you will ever find that applies forever, in every situation. To be successful, you must be able to “think on your feet” and shift your perspective as the situation shifts. Flexibility—your willingness to embrace change and develop new strategies—will get you farther than any single strategy.

11. Communicate. To be successful, you will need to be able to not only have a vision of what you want, but also be able to describe it fully. Give your vision as much detail as possible. Know how to express your thoughts and desires to others who may be able to help. Learn the language of your dream so you can share your vision.

12. Collaborate. Few successful people have gotten to the top alone. No matter what strong skills you possess, there will be other skills you still need to develop. Find people who already have these skills, and form an alliance. The power of such collaborations is greater than the sum of its parts. Learn to work with another person and each of you will reach your goal faster. Form a mastermind alliance of skills and talents, and watch your goals and successes expand exponentially.

Article by Kimberley Jace from the Ultimate Destiny Success System. ©2009 by Ultimate Destiny. All rights reserved.

"When a community and its people are empowered, they have the capacity to articulate their needs, to identify actions to solve those needs, and to mobilize
and organize resources in pursuit of commonly defined goals." 
-- Lorraine Garkovich, University of Kentucky

In the Word from the Coauthors and Publishers section of the 14 titles in
the Ultimate Destiny Success System, we state that these publications offer advanced training in some of the most essential successful living skills for the 21st Century.

We also share the answers people gave when Ultimate Destiny asked participants of a recent playshop on Solving Our Personal, Community and Global Success Puzzles the question:

“In this time of global social, economic and environmental crises, what attitudes and skills
do we need to possess to live more positive, creative, conscious, and sustainable lives?”

We invite you to compare the answers they gave repeated below with the 12 main E-books in the Ultimate Destiny Success System and the list of Ultimate Successful Living Skills available from Ultimate Destiny.

Answers to the Playshop Question:

Awakening to our spiritual identity; Realizing more of our potential; Harnessing our creative mind power; Flowing our energy to solutions rather than problems; Remembering who we really are and why we are here; Fulfilling our life purposes and missions; Making a difference and leaving a legacy; Loving, serving and blessing others; Maintaining a positive mental attitude; and Applying creative thinking and problem-solving.

Resources for Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century Available from Ultimate Destiny:

(NOTES: The first five success skills listed in the table below were identified as the most universal by the Paul J. Meyer Companies that have operated in dozens of countries for over 40 years. Mr. Meyer is credited with being the world's all-time best selling development training author with over 2 billion dollars
of sales. He produced some of the world's best programs on Positive Mental Attitude, Goal Setting, Motivation, Financial Success and Time Management (all of which are available through Ultimate Destiny). 
Each of the topics in the table will be hyperlinked to a page with available resources for that Successful Living Skill including books, E-books, seminars, workshops, classes, affiliate programs, etc.)

Positive Mental Attitude



Time Management

Money Management

and Strategic Planning




Vision Boards

Treasure Mapping


Mission Statements


Creative Thinking and Problem Solving

and Mentoring



Internet Marketing



Servant Leadership


Strategic Alliances

Prayer and Spiritual Mind Treatment

Your Creative Imagination

Effective Communication




Social Entrepreneurship

Action and Implementation Plans

Applying Universal Laws

* NOTE: The Ultimate Destinyland team has invested most of the past 4 years (and over $150,000) acquiring training, strategic alliances, hardware and software in publishing, electronic publishing, marketing and Internet marketing. (The main programs we recommend are at www.UltimatePublishingAndMarketingResources.com.) 

Based on our research, training and experience, we believe Infopreneurship (an expansion and evolution of  entrepreneurship and micro-enterprise development) is one of the most significant Ultimate Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century. It represents one of the best strategies for helping foster innovation, creative thinking, and creation of valuable intellectual properties (books, E-books, digital content, seminars, workshops, new programs, products and services, etc.)

What successful living skills would you add to those in the table above?

Please share your feedback, recommendations and questions.

"I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve."
-- Albert Schweitzer

Recommendations for Lifelong Learning of Successful Living Skills from the UDSS Programs: 

There is no point at which a person masters all the skills of successful living. Even in your strongest area or two, there will always be much more to learn and new ways to apply that knowledge. Commit yourself now to lifelong learning, and the journey will be eternally interesting and rewarding.

Apply at least something from this course, and build on it consistently. Change does not always come easily. Trying to do too much too quickly can backfire. Do what is manageable, never forgetting that your potential, your full potential, is much greater than you think.

Review your progress frequently and come back to this information often for reminders and refreshers. One of the great things that happens when you are on a path of personal growth and actualization of your potential is that your mind is suddenly more free and begins to look at the whole of life in a more creative and enlightened manner. As you do so, we invite you to help further evolve and expand the following initial inventory of available resources for Successful Living Skills.

Universal Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century
Helping Individuals, Organizations and Communities Realize More of Their Potential

"Success is: (1) Peace of Mind, (2) Health and Energy, (3) Loving Relationships,
(4) Financial Freedom, (5) Worthy Goals and Ideals (6) Self-knowledge/self-understanding and (7) a Sense of Personal Fulfillment."
-- Brian Tracy, Phoenix Seminar on the Psychology of Achievement

Spiritual Successful Living Skills

TULIPS, The Ultimate Life Inpowerment Planning System
Seven Ascension Attitudes
Spiritual Mind Treatment
12 Great Virtues
Spiritually Centered New Year’s Resolutions
Crowned with the Ultimate Success of the Lord

Prayer and Meditation
Centering Practices


Ultimate Successful Living Skills from Ultimate Destiny:

           Ultimate Destiny Success System Library -- A Comprehensive "University for Successful Living"

Helping Solve Personal, Community and Global Success Puzzles
12 Steps in the Ultimate Destiny Success System


Master Successful Living Skills

Prosperity Consciousness
StewardHeirShip Consciousness
Heart Mind Coherence
Love Master Skills
Discernment and Decision Making
Actualization of Potential
Commitment to Lifelong Learning
Appreciation and Gratitude
Awakening the Leader Within
Collaboration and Strategic Alliances
Brainstorming and Mind Mapping
Realizing Potential
Ultimazation™ and “Fishing for Whales” Exercises
Knowing How to Co-create Your Ultimate Destiny


Basic Successful Living Skills

Positive Mental Attitude
Goal Orientation

Motivation (self and others)

Managing Time
Managing Money (Including Financial Literacy)

Creative Thinking and Problem Solving
Team Building
Effective Communication Principles and Practices



Motivision: 21 Steps to Manifesting Your Vision
Self-Discovery Exercises
Wheel of Life
Total Person
Ultimate Destiny Success Quizzes
Creative Visioning Exercises
DISC Profiles
Meyers Briggs

Other Featured Resources:

Ultimate Destiny Success System Library
Empowerment 101
Enlightenment 101
Introduction to Personal and Professional Success Techniques
StewardHeirShip™ -- The A.R.T. and Science of Successful Living
               Empowerment Resource Centers
CAN DO!, You CAN DO! Too, and YOUth CAN DO!
ETMS™ Empowerment Training Mentoring Systems
Empowerment Resource Centers
Success Center Partnership Model
Community Resource Center Models
Ultimate Destiny Hall of Fame Award Programs
Strategic Marketing Matrix Systems
Ultimate Fundraising Programs for NPOs
Ultimate Earn While You Learn Affiliate Programs
Ultimate Publishing and Marketing Resources
Community Economic Development
Large Scale Community Empowerment Events
Community Unity Celebrations
Centers for Successful Living
Co-creative Visioning and Strategic Planning
Ultimate Success Puzzle Templates and Software
Coaching and Mentoring
Consulting  Services
S.P.A.R.K. of Destiny

Resource Showcases                                                                                                 
Community Unity Celebration
Maslow’s Description of a Fully Actualized Individual                         
              Norman V. Peale, Betterton & Les Brown
Seminars, Workshops, Playshops and Retreat programs
Teleseminars, Webinars, Pod Casts, etc.

Supplemental Resources:

CENTER SPACE (Center for Spiritual, Personal And Community Enlightenment)
Ultimate Destiny University for Successful Living
The Love Center
The Sedona Light Center
Foundation for Inspired Learning
HeartMath® and The Institute of Heart Math
The Light Institute
Dale Carnegie Courses
The Sedona Method
Hay House and Can Do It!
CEO Space
New Thought Principles and Practices
Community Economic Development
The Holographic Organization
Leadership Management Institute
International Institute for Global Leadership
Ultimate Destiny Hall of Fame Award Recipients
Fellowship for Intentional Community                                                                                 Hall Of Fame Awards
Center for Sustainable Community
Total Person Newsletter
Total Wellness Newsletter
The Great Community by Arthur Morgan

Ultimate Destiny’s Classic Ultimate Success Series:

NOTE: The forthcoming adaptations of these classic public domain works are just one facet of the focus on Infopreneurship. The web pages will be developed later in the Fall of 2010. 

Science of Mind by Ernest Holmes www.ultimatescienceofmind.com
Think and Grow Rich
by Napoleon Hill  www.ultimatethinkandgrowrich.com
Acres of Diamonds by Russell Conwell  www.ultimateacresofdiamonds.com
Prosperity God’s Way by Charles Fillmore  www.ultimateprosperitygodsway.com
The Secret of the Ages by Robert Collier  www.ultimatesecretoftheages.com
The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles www.ultimatescienceofgettingrich.com
The Way to the Kingdom by Joseph Benner www.ultimatewaytothekingdom.com

Ultimate Destinyland's Expanding the Circle of Success Campaign:

"Man alone, of all the creatures of the earth, can change his own pattern. Man alone is the architect of his destiny. The greatest discovery in our generation is that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." -- William James

The shared vision of the non-profit organizations (NPOs) and cause oriented companies participating in Ultimate Destinyland is to help establish an international network of local non-profit Centers for Successful Living and Community Economic Development Empowerment Resource Centers that provide expanded access to state-of-the-art development training programs for Lifelong Learning of Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century.

To facilitate that vision, which is presented at www.UltimateSuccessPuzzle.com, Ultimate Destiny offers its programs, products and services on a Pay What Its Worth To You donation basis. In addition, through the Ultimate Fundraising Program, Ultimate Destiny will donate 50% to 110% of any donations it receives for its programs back to any participating NPO that helps distribute educational programs such as the Ultimate Destiny Success System Library.

Ultimate Destiny will also provide access to its publications and programs on a donation basis to NPOs such as United Ways, community development agencies, community action agencies, centers for independent living, civic organizations, libraries, educational institutions, churches and other social services agencies. That includes rights to reprint and distribute the Ultimate Destiny intellectual properties through seminars and workshops that would be facilitated by the participating NPOs and generate revenue for the NPOs.

Ultimate Destiny is presently seeking corporate sponsors (and our donations through CENTER SPACE) to help accelerate maximum distribution of the hundreds of programs and thousands of pages of original content it has created including Ultimate Successful Living Skills for the 21st Century. For more information, please contact Charles Betterton at 928-284-2671 or send an email to charlesbetterton@gmail.com.  Thank you!

Charles Betterton with the Small Group Discussion Edition of the Ultimate Destiny Success System  

"Mr. Betterton's project for the 1990-1992 Community Economic Development Masters program at Southern New Hampshire University was to promulgate CED principles and practices. The fact that he turned down a HUD Community Builder Fellowship worth $250,000 in 1998 (when he was earning less than $25,000 a year) to continue the non-profit community empowerment work he and his team had underway at the time demonstrates his commitment to what he and his classmates defined as the foundation of CED: self-help, empowerment and capacity building." ---

Dr. Michael Swack, Professor, the Carsey Institute, University of New Hampshire and
founding Dean, School of Community Economic Development, Southern New Hampshire University

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